We all get those days when we feel like we are the rock stars of our life because we manage to get everything done with so much energy, passion, and enthusiasm. There are also days where it feels like it’s the longest day in our life because we are all over the place and nothing is really getting done. Once you define what your relationship with time is, you have complete control over any situation and there will be no resistance to the results you are aiming for. At the end of the day, we all have the same eight hours of work. The only difference is how did you show up for that time?
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What Is Your Relationship with Time?
We’re going to talk about one of the most important things and that’s our relationship with time. I want you to write down on a piece of paper in front of you, “Time is…” I want you to take a moment to write down all the things that come up to you around what time is. Time is fleeting, time is precious, time is important, time is a commodity. What is time to you? Take a moment to think about that and to write that down. What you write down is something to reflect upon because that’s your current relationship with time. What do those words that you chose represent about your relationship? Are they abundant? Is time abundant in your relationship? I doubt it. For most people, it’s not. Is time in scarcity? Do you never have enough time? Are you always chasing time? Recognize what your current relationship with time is.
What’s important to recognize is that our relationship with time has a direct correlation to our results. When we have this scarcity relationship with time or money, then it tends to be a scarcity relationship with our results. We are creating resistance in our process and so we’re not getting the kind of results that we want. Then we come back to age-old excuses around “I don’t have time” and so forth. It’s our approach. What we’re not appreciating is that time is finite. We know that. All the greats talk about there are 24 hours in a day. What’s the difference between a day where you get so much done and you feel like a star in your own life? It feels like there’s more that you got done today than you did in the entire week last week.
There are days that feel like death by 1,000 paper cuts and you just wish that the day was over. What’s the difference with the same number of hours in the day? The difference is how you showed up for that time. It’s the energy that we bring to the time that we have that dictates the results that we’re going to get, the speed at which we get things done. The ability to make decisions quickly depends on the state of mind that we come into a situation. It depends on the perspectives that we’re open to seeing. It depends on the energy that we’re bringing and interacting with others.
If you look at our brain, it is split into two parts. We have our logical part of our brain, which says, “This is what we do with our time.” Then we have the emotional side of our brain, which has a great influence and an even greater influence on how we show up for the time that we have. We’ve got to be very clear that we are managing the side of our brain that is emotional, so that we’re not bringing unproductive emotions and energy to the work that we’re doing that creates resistance. If we find ourselves sabotaging our time, it’s because we’re spending too much of our time in anger, sadness, hurt, fear, guilt, shame. Any of those types of emotions that we’re staying in is keeping us from moving forward.
One of the points that I want to start this out is understanding your relationship with time and understanding the impact of the energy that you’re bringing to that time. When you sit down to do something, what kind of energy are you bringing? Are you sitting down thinking, “This is going to be great, I’m very clear on what it is that I’m going to do. I have my task and then I can follow through with these tasks of what I need to do in this particular moment.” Do you feel cloudy around it and you think, “Ah?” That’s where you get easily distracted and decide that you’ll go to the fridge and you’ll see what’s in there before you get started or you’ll check Facebook before you get started. It begins a habit of procrastination, and so it matters.
One of the most important things is that you get clear on your relationship with the energy that you’re bringing to your time, so that you can make a shift in your relationship with time right away. When you focus on time and you focus on something you can’t control, it creates stress. We need to focus on the things that we can control and then we bring our best energy. That is managing how we show up, how we interact with others, how we get our attention on the things that are most important for us to do.