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Why You Need to Make a Positive Mindset Your #1 Goal in 2017

Positive Mindset The Key To Success In 2017

Positive thinking written in cursive pinned on a cork board

Since the year’s end will be here before you know it, most people will begin to consider making a new year’s resolution. Personally, I never make any. I think they’re a waste of time and effort. In fact I think resolutions, like many of the parties that typically happen on New Year’s Eve, are for amateurs. It’s estimated that only 8% people who make resolutions are successful at achieving them. Think about it. Millions of resolutions are made at the start of each new year with the same thought given to a bad habit. We know it exists, but we never do anything about it.

There are those who set goals instead of resolutions. These are over achievers. You know who you are. You are likely an entrepreneur or successful business person. You recognize the importance of setting goals and laying out a plan for success. You use the plan to your advantage, like a roadmap takes you to your destination. To you, life isn’t a game. It’s a calculated adventure that more often than not, works in your favor. But even those with the best of intentions are at risk of failing to achieve that which they have set out to do.

Then are also the “in between” people. They are those who may have the grandest of intentions. They may make a declaration to their friends, or on Facebook, or perhaps just to their family or friends that this will be the year they “get that promotion” or “start that business” or perhaps “get back in shape.” Most times, these people (you know who you are) have a goal in mind. They may have a date to reach their goal. They could even have a plan to execute it. But sadly, most of these people will fail in their effort to achieve the goal.

There is of course, one more group of people. They scoff at resolutions. They think of them as water cooler talk and want no part of them. These are people who set and achieve goals with the seaming ease of taking a breath. They set lofty goals that seem unattainable to mere mortals. They hit every goal with the accuracy of an expert sharpshooter.

This begs the question, “How?”

How can you achieve at the same rate as these high performers?

Some may think that these people are different. That they have something within them that no one else possesses. The fact is, that couldn’t be further from the truth. It’s the easy answer. It’s an answer that takes any responsibility off of us and blames it on circumstance or maybe even genetics.

The problem is that you are looking at it in the wrong direction. You are linking your results to who you are as a person, rather than just the results and then decide you are a failure. Tony Robbins said, “There is no failure, there are only results.”

Wow, this is great news! The problem isn’t you, it’s only your mindset.

Wait a second Bearj, isn’t my mindset part of me?

Well…yes, but it’s not a permanent part of you, because it can be changed. Your mindset is the sum all of your experiences and inputs from birth until now. Your experiences, challenges, and reactions have shaped you into you.

Changing your mindset means you have to change your reaction to the events that take place around you.

For example, while driving, you run out of gas. Your reaction to this determines your mindset and how you feel about the event.

Choice 1: I’m stupid. These things always happen to me. This is a huge inconvenience. How could I let this happen?

Choice 2: I’ll walk to get gas, it will be good exercise. Maybe I’ll have the chance to meet someone new. I’m glad this happened to me and not one of my kids or my wife. What a beautiful day to be outside.

New Mindset New Results

If you think of your mindset as a radio transmitter and a radio receiver, you will understand the importance of mindset and its role in achieving success.

A transmitter sends out a signal in the form of a vibration and whatever is tuned in at the same wavelength will receive that signal. And the reverse is also true. If you are tuned in to a specific wavelength, your will receive any signal that transmits on that wavelength. So if you are tuned into a “woe is me, I can never do anything right” wavelength, then that is what you will receive. However, if you are tuned into a more positive wavelength that will be the signal you receive.

Setting a goal is important, but the real key to achieving your goal is having a rock solid positive mindset that will give you the strength to overcome any obstacle.

The concept is simple to understand, but a little more difficult to achieve.

So, next month, I’ll talk about how you can retrain your mind to begin receiving and sending the right vibrations so you can get what you want and make every goal seem attainable.

Bearj Jehanian is a Maximum Performance Speaker and Trainer. He teaches corporations, sales teams, colleges, universities and networking groups, how get past mindset roadblocks and hurdles and Break Down The Wall to Their Success Zone. You can find him at www.BreakDowntheWall.com/Bearj
 

Time Isn’t The Problem – YOU ARE

I don’t have enough time.

I’m too busy.

If only there were more hours in the day.

I have an old friend who always told me, “I’m so busy I don’t even have enough time to buy a pair of new jeans.” Seriously, he said that to me all the time! At first I believed him. I mean, why wouldn’t I? I don’t know his schedule. I have no idea what is time management to him and what he goes through on a daily basis. So who am I to argue? But I began to notice he said this to me all the time. It was the same complaint about not having enough time to buy a pair of jeans. For a while I thought, “this guy is going to be walking around in nothing but his tighty-whities soon.” It definitely wouldn’t have been a pretty sight!

Man with a clock over his face

I was young and naïve at the time so I would engage him and try reasoning with him, to no avail. I soon realized that this was a “go to” phrase for him – an attention getter. For me it eventually became white noise – sort of. I secretly kept a mental scoreboard of every instance he made that same excuse. He had enough time for everything else and I began to realize that the only thing he needed some extra to purchase was a pair of jeans. Is that possible?

So (after 4 years of hearing the same excuse) the next time he began his sob story about buying jeans, I called him on it. “Are you telling me that for four years you have been so busy that you haven’t had even a moment to purchase a new pair of jeans?” Realizing how absurd he must have been sounding, we both began to laugh.

If this garnished even a small chuckle from you, it’s probably because it resonated with you in some small way. Either because you have made the same kind of “time” excuse, or perhaps you know others who make this sort of lame excuse themselves.

Let me dive a little deeper into the content of the conversations I had with my friend.

  1. Almost every time we spoke, our conversations lasted 45 minutes to more than an hour. (I’m pretty sure I could have purchased several pairs of jeans in an hour.)
  1. His focus on our conversations was on his problem (time) not the solution.
  2. He focused the reason for his problem on everyone else.

I think we all have friends like this. They’re great people, but perhaps a little misdirected. My friend is a great person. One of the best I know. He would do, and has done, anything for me. Understand, this is not about character. It’s about mindset.

It’s likely that anyone this story made you think about, has a negative mindset directed at successful people. They may believe that somehow successful people caught a break in some way; they were born into it; or maybe they’re just disgruntled because they wish to be successful but are unable to capture what it is they want.

Being successful takes time.

Yes it does. But that doesn’t mean you need more time for it to happen. Most people falsely believe that in order to take on a new project or endeavor you need to add time to you day. Let’s again take a look at my friend, for example. He believed he didn’t have time to buy a single pair of jeans. The reality is he did. You know he did and so do I. In fact, subconsciously, even he knew he had time.

Then what is the problem?

Your language, mindset and willingness to accept responsibility for your results will determine the level of success you achieve. Let’s look at these time management tips

Your Language

My friend told himself so many times over again that he was strapped for time, that he began to believe it. Heck, even I believed it at first! There is nothing that sucks the time and energy from you more than you own language. The more you tell yourself what you can’t do, what you don’t have the time for, and the difficulties you will encounter, the more you will feel like a salmon trying to swim upstream but losing. Start by telling yourself what you can do, what you are capable of. You will improve your time management and watch your productivity rise. They should start teaching this in leadership training, as it is a part of time management skills but rarely recognized as such.

Be Solution-Focused, not Problem-Focused

Chalk board Problems and SolutionsSuccessful people are such, because they solve problems. The more problems you solve, the more successful you are. But how can you find solutions if all you focus on are the problems? The more you focus on problems, the more they will be all you see. It becomes a habit. Now is the time to create new habits and replace the old ones. Be a solution oriented person. Find answers not roadblocks. Forget about dead ends, and instead look for new paths. But here is the secret sauce… By focusing on the solution you will direct your language to be more positive and naturally solve your language issues! How cool is that? Spending time focusing on problems steals your time. Instead acknowledge your problem and focus on a solution.

Accept Responsibility for Your Own Results!

The problem with blaming others for your perceived problems is you give away your control. Just as with your language, you will develop the habit of blaming others, your surroundings, or circumstances for your results and when you do that you give away your power to change them. The result of that is that you lose direction in your life. Imagine a rudderless sailboat attempting to navigate the wind and currents with only a sail. There would be nothing to keep it on course, giving the wind and current all the control with the sail having little if any influence at all. Keep you and only you accountable for you success or failure. When you own your results, you will clear you pathway to success!

My Challenge For You!

Buy a small notebook or journal and begin to keep a log of your language. Log how often your make excuses instead of take action. Keep a record of how often you own your results. And list all the solutions you find for any problems you have.

Create Positive Language

Focus on Solutions

Own Your Results

Just like changing the food you eat will change your body shape and physical health, so will the mindset you create change the results you have and the time it takes to get those desired results. Your thoughts created who you are today, so it stands to reason that by changing those thoughts you can become a different person tomorrow.

Bearj Jehanian is a Maximum Performance Speaker and Trainer. He teaches corporations, sales teams, colleges, universities and networking groups, how get past mindset roadblocks and hurdles and Break Down The Wall to Their Success Zone. You can find him at www.BreakDowntheWall.com/Bearj